"YouTube comments aren’t “just the Internet.” They’re not the product of a group of otherwise nice guys who suddenly become evil when they wear a veil of anonymity. YouTube comments are actually a nightmarish glimpse into the sexist attitudes that define the fabric of our own existence in the “real world,” a world that, like YouTube, is owned and dominated by men. The most terrifying gift that the Internet has given us is that it’s shown us how men honestly perceive the world: as a place where women exist exclusively for their sexual pleasure."

Samantha Allen’s For women on the Internet, it doesn’t get better, in the Daily Dot.

I was talking with someone recently about how much harassment on the internet bothered me: not just the implied violence, but the fact that anyone could think such things, much less feel it was okay to say them, anonymous or not.

The person I was talking to, a guy, shrugged it off: “Teenaged boys just think all kinds of horrible shit. Their brains go to dark places.”

Assuming this is true, my question now is, *why* do they go to dark places? What is going on in our socialization processes that lead to this? It seems we don’t unlink the deep, evolved ties between sex and violence, for a start, but surely there is more here.

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OMG so this. 




OMG so this. 


Columbia student will carry her mattress until her rapist exits school
September 2, 2014

While most students at Columbia University will spend the first day of classes carrying backpacks and books, Emma Sulkowicz will start her semester on Tuesday with a far heavier burden. The senior plans on carrying an extra-long, twin-size mattress across the quad and through each New York City building – to every class, every day – until the man she says raped her moves off campus.

“I was raped in my own bed,” Sulkowicz told me the other day, as she was gearing up to head back to school in this, the year American colleges are finally, supposedly, ready to do something about sexual assault. “I could have taken my pillow, but I want people to see how it weighs down a person to be ignored by the school administration and harassed by police.”

Sulkowicz is one of three women who made complaints to Columbia against the same fellow senior, who was found “not responsible” in all three cases. She also filed a police report, but Sulkowicz was treated abysmally – by the cops, and by a Columbia disciplinary panel so uneducated about the scourge of campus violence that one panelist asked how it was possible to be anally raped without lubrication.

So Sulkowicz joined a federal complaint in April over Columbia’s mishandling of sexual misconduct cases, and she will will hoist that mattress on her shoulders as part savvy activism, part performance art. “The administration can end the piece, by expelling him,” she says, “or he can, by leaving campus.”

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As painful as I know the constant reminder of attending school with her rapist must be, I’m glad she won’t be the only one forced to remember. I hope the rapist drops out immediately…or better yet, I hope he faces the justice he deserves. 

"But I think the real nugget is that I wasn’t like a lot of the other presenters: I wore a dress, heels, and a big necklace. I was incredibly articulate and poised. I wasn’t a stand-up act or rough around the edges. I think that this set off a red flag to these men: “There is something different here. Different is bad.” Is it possible that the only frame of reference they have for a strong woman in front of an audience, speaking articulately, is their school teachers?"


"I thought they would put some fucking hot girls up there to fucking look at. AM I RIGHT?"

"Only 1 out of 5 is hot, and that is Jessica. The rest need to be in the kitchen."

"Wow, now I realize why Jess is the only chick working in IGN that gets featured in videos."


You make the joke in a lame attempt to be funny. You tell yourself you don’t mean it.

You were never that funny. It’s not that funny. But it leans on something you’re familiar with, a part of your culture you see as harmless, since you just use it for laughs.

Others laugh at it. They also aren’t funny. They will go on to make jokes like this in the future for the same reason. They will tell themselves they don’t mean it.

You and others hear these jokes. You make these jokes. You all, collectively, tell yourselves you don’t mean it.

Many of your group start leaning on this rhetoric to fill in for other intellectual shortcomings beyond humor: anger, fear, defensiveness. It becomes the go-to thought terminating cliche, the cure all for threats and cognitive dissonance.

Eventually it ends up deep inside because, relatively, it’s all you hear about women. If asked, you will deny, lean on the original excuse “it’s just a joke”. But inside, you find yourself thinking it. It feels good to think it. It makes you feel included.

This is how sexism becomes pandemic in male-dominated social groups.

No skin thick enough: The daily harassment of women in the game industry | Polygon

"We live in a society that’s sexist in ways it doesn’t understand. One of the consequences is that men are extremely sensitive to being criticized by women. I think it threatens them in a very primal way, and male privilege makes them feel free to lash out."

"@ChiefElk: Rape kits were developed to medicalize & quantify sexual violence, & we have a national backlog of 500,000+. #BelieveSurvivors"


Open letter from Dylan Farrow about being sexually abused by her father, Woody Allen

Male privilege is having a seat at the table no matter what the topic.

Male privilege is having a seat at the table no matter what the topic.