"@ChiefElk: Rape kits were developed to medicalize & quantify sexual violence, & we have a national backlog of 500,000+. #BelieveSurvivors"
But even when I’m in the same room as my wife and sons, my contribution to their lives pales in comparison to my wife’s. I’m not feeding them with breastmilk my body made out of its own blood as my uterus repairs itself and as my body and mind approach even basic tasks from a formidable sleep and energy deficit. My wife, at her resting state, is heroic, and I am, in essence, just some guy.
If I wanted to, I could split and suffer limited consequences. In the worst-case scenario, I’d give up half my income, or some such paltry nonsense, which wouldn’t even nip at the heels of my wife’s gift of her body and soul to our children. Not that a father who raises his children isn’t a wonderful thing; he is. He just better enter the game with a suitcase of humility and gratitude toward the woman who birthed his child."
"Why bring condoms along on a night out if you believe having casual sex is wrong? Easier to just allow yourself a hormonal or drunken lapse. Why support abortion rights if everyone agrees unintended pregnancy is a deserved consequence of regrettable sex, rather than a relatively common but relatively preventable aspect of the human experience? If men believe that women who have casual sex aren’t worthy of respect and that drunk women are sexually available, it’s easier for everyone else to look the other way or blame women for their own victimization when sexually assaulted."
"Those who insist that violence has rendered us walking dead reenact the same denial of autonomy they wish to condemn. Their intentions may be pure: I think many who mourn the “lost lives” of victims mean to highlight the awfulness of the crime. But we can all agree that sexual violence is bad without sacrificing its victims to prove our point. Not everything terrible is fatal."
"It is illegal for women to go topless in most cities, yet you can buy a magazine of a woman without her top on at any 7-11 store. So, you can sell breasts, but you cannot wear breasts, in America."