"But I think the real nugget is that I wasn’t like a lot of the other presenters: I wore a dress, heels, and a big necklace. I was incredibly articulate and poised. I wasn’t a stand-up act or rough around the edges. I think that this set off a red flag to these men: “There is something different here. Different is bad.” Is it possible that the only frame of reference they have for a strong woman in front of an audience, speaking articulately, is their school teachers?"

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"I thought they would put some fucking hot girls up there to fucking look at. AM I RIGHT?"

"Only 1 out of 5 is hot, and that is Jessica. The rest need to be in the kitchen."

"Wow, now I realize why Jess is the only chick working in IGN that gets featured in videos."

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You make the joke in a lame attempt to be funny. You tell yourself you don’t mean it.

You were never that funny. It’s not that funny. But it leans on something you’re familiar with, a part of your culture you see as harmless, since you just use it for laughs.

Others laugh at it. They also aren’t funny. They will go on to make jokes like this in the future for the same reason. They will tell themselves they don’t mean it.

You and others hear these jokes. You make these jokes. You all, collectively, tell yourselves you don’t mean it.

Many of your group start leaning on this rhetoric to fill in for other intellectual shortcomings beyond humor: anger, fear, defensiveness. It becomes the go-to thought terminating cliche, the cure all for threats and cognitive dissonance.

Eventually it ends up deep inside because, relatively, it’s all you hear about women. If asked, you will deny, lean on the original excuse “it’s just a joke”. But inside, you find yourself thinking it. It feels good to think it. It makes you feel included.

This is how sexism becomes pandemic in male-dominated social groups.

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"We live in a society that’s sexist in ways it doesn’t understand. One of the consequences is that men are extremely sensitive to being criticized by women. I think it threatens them in a very primal way, and male privilege makes them feel free to lash out."

"@ChiefElk: Rape kits were developed to medicalize & quantify sexual violence, & we have a national backlog of 500,000+. #BelieveSurvivors"

February

Open letter from Dylan Farrow about being sexually abused by her father, Woody Allen

Male privilege is having a seat at the table no matter what the topic.

Male privilege is having a seat at the table no matter what the topic.

Via: alexdao

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But even when I’m in the same room as my wife and sons, my contribution to their lives pales in comparison to my wife’s. I’m not feeding them with breastmilk my body made out of its own blood as my uterus repairs itself and as my body and mind approach even basic tasks from a formidable sleep and energy deficit. My wife, at her resting state, is heroic, and I am, in essence, just some guy.

If I wanted to, I could split and suffer limited consequences. In the worst-case scenario, I’d give up half my income, or some such paltry nonsense, which wouldn’t even nip at the heels of my wife’s gift of her body and soul to our children. Not that a father who raises his children isn’t a wonderful thing; he is. He just better enter the game with a suitcase of humility and gratitude toward the woman who birthed his child.

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"Why bring condoms along on a night out if you believe having casual sex is wrong? Easier to just allow yourself a hormonal or drunken lapse. Why support abortion rights if everyone agrees unintended pregnancy is a deserved consequence of regrettable sex, rather than a relatively common but relatively preventable aspect of the human experience? If men believe that women who have casual sex aren’t worthy of respect and that drunk women are sexually available, it’s easier for everyone else to look the other way or blame women for their own victimization when sexually assaulted."

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